I just got back from a vacation, and I’m kind of embarrassed to admit it was the first one since starting in tech that genuinely left me feeling reenergized. It wasn’t because I fully unplugged or flung my laptop into the ocean. I kept Slack on my phone and pulled out my computer now and then - but it didn’t pull me out of the moment or add stress. I spent a lot of time thinking about why. Objectively, I’m under more pressure now than ever. Being a founder is intense. This team at Edera is incredible and knowing they’ve made the leap here, I feel a deep responsibility to give them the experience and security they deserve, while we make customers happy and educate a new market. Some days, my brain feels like it might explode or melt, somehow simultaneously. I read "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k" a couple years ago, and it stuck with me. It talks about life being a series of problems - so the key isn’t chasing happiness, but finding the problems you're most excited to solve, or at least willing to tolerate. Looking back, the stress and problem set I used to carry was a very different kind. Here are just a few real examples from recent years: - I was asked in a board meeting if I liked looking at shirtless photos of Matthew McConaughey. - A board member once refused to shake my hand at dinner (while shaking everyone else’s), ignored any work talk, and instead showed me a photo of a diaper blowout his wife had sent. - I was told that hiring me was the most controversial decision my boss had ever made (and got the most s**t about from investors) because my background wasn’t traditional and I wasn’t seen as “qualified,” despite having held executive roles before. These are the tame stories. I’ll save the rest for a future novel. That kind of stress led to burnout and a lack of psychological safety. A vacation couldn’t fix that - it just led to heightened insecurity. The bad kind of FOMO that happens when you’ve been gaslit a few too many times to actually feel like you can let go. At Edera, the stress is still real. It’s existential. Startups are hard. Like, really hard. But this kind of stress - building, failing, growing, creating - feels like the good kind of problems to be solving. And doing it with a team of people who have been at the forefront of so much innovative tech while partnering with investors who truly value the differences we bring as an inherent advantage is a joy. And with that, vacations become additive. I can zip line, hang with sea turtles, and also do some work - not because I have to, but because I want to. How do you vacation? Fully unplug? Partially unplug? Would love to hear your relationship with them and how you get reenergized! Also - took Ivy to the Caribbean - she enjoyed the sun and sand and left without a sunburn. Despite my best efforts, I was not so lucky. But, excited to get back to work, and off to some early Black Hat festivities in Vegas on Saturday! Let me know if you’ll be there!
Amazing how important feeling safe and seen at work really is! I think many women have a few of our own gaslit type moments, like yours… but, we are going to use that as fuel in establishing a safe culture in the companies we lead and try and protect it all costs. See you in Vegas!
I first stumbled into Edera’s tech through Alex’s posts. The tech is first rate, but as I’ve seen more of the team post on the network here, the more I’m convinced y’all have an absolute winner. Why? It’s the humans. Everyone of you there has a stand out super human reason to prove to the world that strong emotional intelligence and the ability to build a safe highly functional work environment is where the real future of tech lives. I’m also convinced at this point, literally everyone else in tech is simply holding it wrong, so can’t help but add my personal thanks for showing us all the proper way to do it!
Thank you for sharing, so important.
Emily Long - you are inspiring!
It helps manage my sense of overwhelm to stay partially plugged in with work while on vacation. I like to skim through what's going on in my emails and slack to ensure I am not a blocker on anything important/time sensitive. While the kids take a nap or have a little afternoon movie time, I check in on what's happening at work and it's a win-win. But I've been very fortunate to have you as a leader who supports me in being able to fully unplug (if I want). It is not lost on me that having support like this is a privilege and one I don't take for granted. That's why you'll never be able to get rid of me ??
I tend to mix a vacation spot with work. So we don’t do traditional 2 week vacations. We’ll do 3 or 7 or 21 days sprinkled across the year in fabulous places but we will still work.
I like to hear how people unplug. I think if the pandemic didn’t teach us anything else, it taught us the importance of having a healthy balance of life and work.
I'm a partially unplugged vacationer.. nothing makes me happier than inbox 0 and it keeps me relaxed on vaca knowing that I'm not coming back to a mountain of messages! "I’ll save the rest for a future novel." Can't wait to read it and maybe contribute a few chapters ??
Love the referencing Mark Manson and "TSAONGAF" (this is a rough looking acronym for the book's title I'll admit). And resonate with the partial unplug aspect. It's the push and pull of wanting to always be in the mix but respecting my own need to balance out the mind a bit. Appreciate you sharing this post and keeping it real as always Emily! Also the camo Ivy hat is awesome! Merch is always top notch at Edera, no question about that.
Co-Founder, Chief Operating Officer at Syntasso
4 天前This resonated with me so much. I’m also just back from vacation and I also didn’t fully disconnect (checked emails, slack etc) but for the same reasons you mentioned. Start-up life is hard (so is being a founder) but it is still my favourite place to be. Looking forward to catching up soon, enjoy Vegas ??