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Several years ago, I walked into a conference room for a high-stakes meeting and froze. The table was surrounded by empty chairs, each one a silent question: Where do I sit?

I picked a seat in the middle, hoping to blend in. Big mistake.

I struggled to get a word in, felt ignored, and left deflated. Later, a mentor shared a game-changer: Where you sit shapes how you’re perceived. That insight, backed by science, transformed how I navigate meetings—and it can do the same for you.

Why Your Seat Matters More Than You Think

Environmental psychologist Robert Sommer found that seating position influences perceptions, relationships, and even decision-making. One study even found that table shape affects behavior: rectangular tables foster competition, while circular ones promote collaboration.

In a conference room, your seat is a strategic tool to amplify your presence, build alliances, or stay under the radar. Whether you’re aiming to lead, listen, or leave early, here’s how to pick the power seat every time, distilled from my own experiments and expert research.

4 Strategies to Choose the Perfect Seat

1. Know Your Goal: Attention or Stealth Mode

Before entering a meeting, decide your mode. Want to be heard? Choose “Attention Mode” seats (near the leader or opposite them). Prefer to listen quietly? Opt for “Stealth Mode” (middle or sidelines).

Action Step: Ask yourself, “Do I want to lead or learn today?” Pick a seat that matches your goal.

2. Claim the Power Player’s Seat

The seat next to the boss (if the boss is sitting at seat A, this would be Position B or C) is prime real estate. It signals alliance, gives you whispering access, and boosts visibility. Science shows sitting closer to someone increases empathy perception—perfect for building trust.

Action Step: Arrive early to snag a seat to the left of the leader for maximum influence, as research suggests left-side seats get more attention.

3. Avoid the Middle Trap

Middle seats (Position D) get less eye contact and speaking time. If you’re stuck there, lean forward and raise your hand slightly to command attention. Better yet, avoid these seats unless you’re in full Stealth Mode.

Action Step: If you must sit in the middle, prepare one bold comment and signal for the floor early to stay visible.

4. Face the Contender’s Challenge

Sitting opposite the boss (Position E) puts you in the “Contender” spot—great for bold ideas but risky if you’re not ready to debate. Counteract contrarian vibes with supportive body language: nod, smile, and agree verbally.

Action Step: Choose this seat only if you’re prepared to address the leader directly with confidence.

Your Seat, Your Power

The right seat can boost your confidence, strengthen relationships, and elevate your career. Next time you enter a conference room, walk in with a plan.

What’s your go-to seating strategy? Or, who’s the savviest seat-picker you know? Share your tips or tag them in the comments—I’d love to hear your story.

Note: These are just a few great tips! For more on mastering meetings, check out the full guide at Science of People:How to Pick the Right Seat in a Meeting EVERY Time